A coworker recently learned that I am a Vietnam vet and asked me for information. That started me thinking about long past events, and I decided to write down one of my most memorable experiences, a trip out of the war zone to Japan. The story is off topic; I'll post some Vietnam boat pictures to give the story context. Above, top to bottom: 1. Wayne, on watch on the bridge of the USS Askari. 2. A patrol boat of the S. Vietnamese navy. 3. The smoke of battle on the horizon on the Mekong. 4. Heavily armored landing craft used in close range patrols/combat in canals off the Mekong River. 5. A peaceful sunrise on the Mekong. 6. Downtown VungTau.
September, 1966, I entered active duty with the US
Navy. After attending basic navigation
school, I reported aboard the USS Askari, ARL-30, and was immediately assigned
to help load armor plate and other supplies for our mission in Vietnam. We left San Francisco in early December,
stopping in Hawaii and the Philippines along the way, toward our new homeport
of VungTau, Vietnam. Most of 1967 was
spent in the Mekong Delta. I then
returned to Vietnam aboard the USS Preston, DD 795, during the summer of
1968. It was an important point in my
life when I was on my own, deciding what was important and who I wanted to
be. No one cared whether hours were
spent in a library or a bar; each person chose their own path. It made for interesting observations and
When you were stationed “in country” in the combat zone for
an extended period you would eventually qualify for “R&R”, rest and
relaxation outside Vietnam. A friend, Carl Nixon, and I both qualified for
R&R in June ’67 and both chose Japan as our destination. You were given
permissive orders for the period.
“Permissive” meant that you were to find your own way from our ship
upriver on the Mekong to Saigon to catch a flight and then find your way back
upon return. We got a ride on a boat
downriver to the coastal town of VungTau. As soon as we arrived we made ourselves scarce
until the scheduled flight to Saigon had departed; then we reported in at the
airfield. That gave us an extra day on
our own. At VungTau, we often would walk
some distance to an off-limits beach in a rocky cove served by a single
café. There we could eat lunch and play
in the waves which were sometimes big enough for body surfing. Later, we had dinner and a few drinks in town
and, in the process, were joined by another Navy man who was headed to Saigon. With curfew time approaching, the three of us
visited a local hotel to get a room for the night. The entry to the hotel featured a line of
young women waiting along the corridor.
Carl and I politely declined companionship for the evening, but the
other fellow bought dinner for “his girl” and she spent the night with him.
The next day we took a Chinook helicopter to Saigon; it felt
like a flying bus. The military had leased an entire hotel with a barracks-type
configuration for transient personnel in Saigon. We didn’t wander far from the hotel that day,
saving our funds until we reached Japan. We were anxious to get started and
happily boarded a leased aircraft the next morning. Arriving at Tachikawa AFB near Tokyo, we were
given barracks-type beds & lockers.
This would be home base. We
relaxed and took a swim in the base pool.
Carl and I had lost our fellow Navy man, but picked up a crazy Marine on
R&R. Why do I say crazy? This man had been in Vietnam for several
years on back-to-back tours in the region of the North Vietnam border. Every time his tour of duty was up, he would
volunteer to stay longer. Why would he
do this? Because soldiers don’t fight
for their country; they fight for their buddies. If he went home to the US, in his mind he would
be abandoning his “band of brothers”. At
this point his unit had sent him on R&R, and then he was mandatorily being
sent back to the States. They would
allow no more extensions, and we could sense why. He spoke casually about killing the enemy,
had done it multiple times, and the enemy was anyone who would harm a US
Marine. It was questionable to us how he
would re-adapt to civilian life.
Our Marine wanted to rent a cab and go to Yokohama (20
miles away) to drink Black Russians at a bar he knew. Money meant nothing to him. We decided to go with him and show him how to
use the train system, saving considerable funds. We found the bar, and drank a few Black
Russians, but not enough to keep us from finding our way back.
The next day Carl and I set out again on a train to explore
the area. While on the train (think
metro commuter line), I noticed a man reading a newspaper section which had a
picture of a person water skiing on the back cover. We asked where the picture was taken, and,
although communication was limited, we were able to ascertain that the
water skiing was at Hayama Beach, on the ocean southwest of Tokyo. Looking at the train schedule, we realized
that we could make the last train to Hayama that night. Arriving at Hayama Beach well after dark, we
walked down to the beach and discovered a party for college students was taking
place. We were immediately invited to
join the party with the incentive, “We have more beer than we can drink.” They were very friendly and spoke fluent
English. We learned that water skiing was offered in late morning sessions and
that a college music festival was taking place for the next few days. A little
before midnight we rented a bamboo shack on the beach to sleep in. Being in the Navy on a regular watch schedule
I had developed an internal clock and was able to awaken at an early hour to
get us on our way. We needed to get up
early to take the train back to our home base to clean up and get bathing suits
and fresh clothes.
We arrived back in time to sign up for water skiing. This
consisted of all participants lining up for mandatory exercises; then being
transferred by boat to a covered platform moored in the bay. The ski boat would come by the platform, each
time picking up a new participant for a short period of skiing. Water skiing was apparently a very new sport
in Japan. I watched people struggle to
get up and then wobble around for a few laps before collapsing in the
water. This was the ocean, and waves
were present, so their difficulty was understandable. Growing up in Nebraska, I
had been skiing for 5-6 years using our family boat. When it was my turn to ski, I quickly kicked
off one ski to slalom and was able to perform enough tricks that a photographer
was called out to the platform to take pictures of the action. He had questions for my friend, Carl. The
photographer couldn’t speak English, and Carl knew no Japanese, but they
discovered that they both were fluent enough in Spanish to discuss water skiing.
Carl was an interesting guy.
Out of high school, he was accepted and enrolled at the US Naval
Academy. After a short time at the
Academy he decided he didn’t like it and requested release. His request
was refused until he contacted his Senator, who was on the Defense committee.
He then quickly got his release from the Academy, but it wasn’t a release from
military commitment. He was ordered on enlisted duty on our ship, the USS
Askari, in Vietnam. After release from
active duty, he eventually moved to Morelia, Mexico, where he graduated from
medical school and became a primary care physician in rural Mexico.
After skiing we discovered that a dance would be held that
night. Carl and I went to a local
communal bath house to freshen up.
Do you take a shower before stepping into the hot pool or afterwards? We
may have done both. That evening we went to the dance. The music was almost
exclusively familiar American rock & roll songs. As we walked in, all the girls were in
clusters along the far wall, and the boys were along the near wall to our
left. The dance floor was uncrowded.
Adults were at tables toward the rear of the room to our right. We were the
only Caucasians present. What do you do in such a situation? If you are on R&R from Vietnam, you ask a
girl to dance.
My attention was drawn to a girl standing on the edge of a group (pretty, relaxed, not engaged in the group chatter), and I approached her with a request for a dance. After several dances she, Tamea, asked me to
meet some of her relatives, who were seated in a booth toward the back of the
room. I learned that Tamea’s extended family
rented one floor of the Hayama Beach hotel each summer for several weeks. Tamea was a student at Tokyo University. Later that evening, Tamea and one of her friends took Carl
and me for a ride to show us the area.
We sat in back with a white-gloved chauffeur driving our dark limousine-type
car and drove to a lookout point for a view of the surrounding
area illuminated by thousands of lights. After such hospitality, Carl and I
requested that we treat the girls (okay, young women) to dinner the following
The next day we spent the afternoon listening to the music
festival and talking with Tamea and her friend; one subject was explaining the
lyrics and their context for American songs.
That evening we had reservations for dinner in a private room at the
hotel. As an E-4 in Vietnam, I was paid
maybe $300 per month, but the exchange rate was 360 yen to the dollar, and we
were on vacation. We wanted to show our
appreciation. However, toward the end of
the dinner, Tamea’s brother walked into the room. Carl and I knew that was a “bad” sign. Sure enough, they would not let us pay for
dinner! Look, we are enlisted US
war-mongers from Vietnam! Why are you
treating us so nice?
I had agreed to shop for some speakers for a friend’s stereo
system back on the ship in Vietnam before we went home (to Askari). The week ended quickly. Before leaving, I got Tamea’s address and
learned that her father’s name was Dodan Kuruma. He was President of the Tokyo Buddhist Federation. They lived in a suburb of Tokyo
(Toshima-ku). Her father had traveled
extensively, to the US and Europe as well as throughout Asia, as a part of his
Tamea and I exchanged several letters during the next four
months. When I was notified of the
November end date of my Vietnam duty and realized that I would be passing
through Japan on my way to the States, I let her know, and she invited me to
visit at their home in Tokyo. Carl Nixon
was given the same return date; we would be flying back together. Again, we were routed to VungTau, Saigon, and
on to Tachikawa AFB, where we would lay over for a few days awaiting our flight to
Travis AFB, California.
As soon as we arrived at Tachikawa, Carl and I headed for a
train to Tokyo. Another shipmate, Steven
Quade, asked to be included. Tamea had
met Carl, but I was hesitant to impose on the Kuruma family with three of us. Quade was from the south side of Chicago
(“the baddest part of town” according to Jim Croce’s song). He didn’t have college aspirations like Carl
or myself, but he was a fairly polite and decent guy so we couldn’t refuse. We had the commuter train directions figured out,
and the three of us had little trouble making train transfers to arrive in Toshima-ku.
Stepping out on the street of this busy neighborhood, we
wandered for a while before giving up on finding Tamea’s home. We enlisted the aid of the local police
precinct station. A helpful policeman
escorted us to the Kuruma home. No
wonder we couldn’t recognize the home!
OMG! It wasn’t a house, it was a
compound encompassing an entire (small) city block. A tall, black, wrought-iron fence enclosed
the entire block. The entry gates were
closed; behind that were trees, bushes, a garden, and the home. The policeman was able to rouse one of the house
staff to open the gate and notify the family of our arrival.
They quickly invited us into their home, more
family members arrived, and we enjoyed a warm welcome. We were invited to stay for dinner. The dinner table was only about one foot
above the floor, but we discovered that the tablecloth disguised a foot well built
into the floor under the table. We tried
our best to use chopsticks and be polite guests, but I am sure we transgressed
some unfamiliar Japanese custom. They
offered us the option of forks to use and were forgiving of any shortcomings. After dinner, various conversations sprang up
around the table, lubricated by ample servings of wine and sake. When we said our good-byes for the evening,
Tamea’s brother escorted us to the train station to ensure that the sake’s
influence didn’t mislead us. We were
invited back the next day.
Upon arrival the following morning we were introduced to
Tamea’s older sister, Masayo. Wow! Tamea was a very pretty young woman, but her
older (and taller) sister, Masayo, would have been appropriate on a magazine
cover. They offered to show us downtown
Tokyo. We took a smaller vehicle, Masayo
(driving) and Tamea in the front seat, and us three sailors in back. It was amusing to watch these two gorgeous
women maneuver their way through heavy traffic.
With the car windows open, they would smile and wave out the window and
the nearby cars would move aside to let them pass.
We parked in front of the Imperial Palace and walked the
area, peering through the surrounding fence at the extensive landscaped
gardens. Tamea’s father, Dodan, met us
at Chinzanso restaurant for lunch. This
is an internationally-known eatery where we were served, outdoors in a garden,
by a chef preparing our meals at our table.
Later we went to a playground/park with adult-sized swings, slides, and
such items and walked, talked, and played on the equipment. Tamea and I went down the slide together
(yes, my arms were around her). For
dinner, we rode an elevator to the top of a skyscraper in downtown Tokyo to the
Suehiro restaurant. The entire
restaurant rotates as you dine so that you enjoy a 360-degree skyline. Another famous eatery; no, we were not
allowed to pay for ANYthing.
The following day, Carl, Steven, and I boarded our non-stop
flight to Travis AFB. I passed through
Tachikawa again in September, 1968, coming home from my second tour in Vietnam,
but was only there for a few hours. I
continued corresponding periodically with Tamea for about 1-1 ½ years after
that. Carl and I kept in contact until
he graduated from medical school. I
always considered Tamea as a “pen pal”.
She was obviously very attractive, educated, and congenial. But there was a huge economic, cultural and
geographic separation to consider, and I was only a college student financially
on my own.
I have never forgotten my visits to Japan because what we
experienced was so exceptional. It seems
like a dream with events bigger than life.
What motivated this wealthy, high class family from a vastly different
culture to treat us with such openness and generosity? Is this the Buddhist influence? Carl and I were junior enlisted sailors from
a war zone; nothing notable about us.
Wouldn’t most people have brushed us aside? How did this all happen?